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What to Do to Help Your Partner with Trauma

Updated: Apr 6

Trauma can have a significant impact on a person's life, and it can be challenging to know how to support your partner if they've experienced trauma.

However, there are several strategies you can use to help your partner feel safe, supported, and heard. In this blog, we'll explore some of the best ways to support your partner if they've experienced trauma.

Understanding the Best Approach

When supporting your partner with trauma, it's essential to approach the situation with empathy, patience, and understanding. Trauma can be a complex and difficult experience, and it's essential to recognize that your partner may need time and space to heal.

One way to approach the situation is to ask your partner how they would like to be supported. This could include asking them what they need from you, what you can do to help them feel safe and supported, and what their boundaries are.

It's also essential to educate yourself about trauma and its impact. By understanding the effects of trauma, you can be more empathetic and supportive towards your partner. This could include reading books or articles, attending workshops or support groups, or speaking with a mental health professional.

Things to Say and Not to Say

When supporting your partner with trauma, it's important to be mindful of what you say and how you say it. Trauma can be a sensitive and triggering topic, and it's essential to be thoughtful and considerate in your communication.

Some things to say to your partner include:

  • "I'm here for you."

  • "I believe you."

  • "I'm sorry that you had to go through that."

  • "Is there anything I can do to help you feel safe and supported?"

Some things to avoid saying to your partner include:

  • "Just get over it."

  • "It could have been worse."

  • "You should have done something differently."

  • "I know how you feel."

It's important to listen to your partner and validate their feelings, even if you don't fully understand their experience. By doing so, you can create a safe and supportive environment for them to heal.

How to Identify Your Partner's Triggers

Triggers are events or situations that can cause a person to experience heightened emotional responses, such as anxiety, fear, or panic.

When supporting your partner with trauma, it's essential to identify their triggers and take steps to avoid or manage them.

Some common triggers for people with trauma include loud noises, crowded spaces, physical touch, and certain smells or sights. If you notice that your partner is experiencing a trigger, it's essential to remain calm and supportive. You could try offering them a safe space to retreat to, such as a quiet room or a private outdoor area.

It's also important to communicate with your partner about their triggers and how they would like to be supported. This could include creating a plan for how to manage triggers together, such as using grounding techniques, breathing exercises, or other coping strategies.

Reach Out If You Want to Book a Session With One of Our Mental Health Coaches

Supporting a partner with trauma can be challenging, but it's important to remember that you're not alone. If you're struggling to support your partner, or if you're feeling overwhelmed or uncertain, consider reaching out to a mental health coach for support and guidance.

Our coaches are trained to help you navigate the complexities of trauma and support your partner in a compassionate and empathetic way. We offer personalized coaching sessions tailored to your unique needs and goals, and we're here to support you every step of the way.

A Word from Wellnite

In conclusion, supporting a partner with trauma requires empathy, patience, and understanding. By approaching the situation with care, validating your partner's feelings, and identifying their triggers, you can create a safe and supportive environment for them to heal.


P.S.: This was created using ChatGPT with Wellnite staff review and supervision with the goal to create and promote mental healthcare awareness.

If you found this helpful, please feel free to share this with someone you think would benefit from this. At Wellnite, we have mental health coaches and licensed therapists who are ready to assist you on your journey toward healing. Your mental health matters. Check out our website or follow us on social media for more content around mental health and wellness.

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