Kim Castro
November 9, 2021

What Not to Say to Someone With Depression

Many people have never experienced depression.  

When someone you care about is depressed it’s our natural reaction (for most of us) to help that person by encouraging them or giving them advice.

However, sometimes your intentions can come off the wrong way.  While you may have the right intentions, certain phrases, words, or sentiments can exacerbate symptoms of depression rather than help.  

In this blog, we'll be sharing tips on how you can support loved ones experiencing depression.


Depression looks different for each person. But there are several symptoms that you can look out for:

  • Feeling hopeless, worthless, guilty, and/or sad
  • Difficulty concentrating
  • Loss of libido
  • Inability to feel pleasure  
  • Sleep disturbances
  • Appetite changes
  • Suicidal thoughts  


It is important to be sensitive to the feelings of one who is going through depression. One word can either help or hurt them.  

Here's what you shouldn't say to someone with depression.

1. Cheer up.

2. It's all in your head.

3. It will pass.  

4. You don't look depressed.

5. Just think of something else.  


  1. Feeling hopeless
  2. Feeling worthless
  3. Difficulty concentrating
  4. Inability to feel pleasure
  5. Sleep disturbances
  6. Appetite changes
  7. Suicidal Thoughts

While your intentions may be good, saying these things to someone experiencing depression will not help their situation.  Shaming, stigmatizing, or invalidating their feelings will likely worsen their depression.  

Here are a few things you can say instead to support them.

1. Do you want to talk about it? I’m here when you’re ready.

2. How are you managing? How is your depression?

3. What can I do to help today?

4. I’m really sorry you’re going through this. I’m here for you if you need me.

5. It's okay to feel this way.  

Often people who are depressed often feel misunderstood. That’s why is good to discuss mental health and be compassionate.  

There are no perfect answers when it comes to supporting a friend or loved one with depression. But remember to be mindful of your words because they can either help or hurt the one you love.  

If you believe that they need to talk to a professional, feel free to contact us at Wellnite. Our licensed therapists and coaches are here to help.    

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P.S.: This blog was created with AI software as a tool to supplement the author, accompanied by Wellnite Staff overview and supervision.
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