Kim Castro
December 28, 2022

I Can't Make Friends: Is There Something Wrong with Me?

This is the story of Sarah - not a real Sarah.

As a child, Sarah always struggled to make friends. She was shy and introverted and often felt left out at school. She would watch as other kids laughed and played together, wondering what she was doing wrong.

As she got older, Sarah continued to struggle with making friends. She would often question herself, wondering if there was something wrong with her. She felt isolated and alone, and it began to take a toll on her mental health.

One day, Sarah decided that she couldn't take it anymore. She was tired of feeling left out and lonely, and she knew that she needed to do something about it. She started by reaching out to others, even if it was just a small gesture like saying hello in the hallway.

It wasn't easy at first, and Sarah faced rejection and disappointment along the way. But she didn't let it get her down. She knew that making friends was a process, and she was determined to keep trying.

Finally, after months of effort, Sarah met someone who she considered her first true friend. They bonded over a shared love of books, and Sarah felt a sense of belonging that she had never experienced before.

The impact of not having friends on our mental health can be significant. Without social support, we can feel isolated and alone, which can lead to depression and anxiety. On the other hand, having strong social connections can provide a sense of purpose and meaning, and can even improve our physical health.

Why People Struggle to Make New Friends

So, why do people struggle to make new friends? There can be many reasons. Some people are shy or introverted and may find it difficult to initiate social interactions. Others may have had negative experiences in the past, and may be hesitant to put themselves out there again.

If you're struggling to make new friends, here are some tips to help you get started:

Tips to Make New Friends

  • Be open and approachable. Smile and make eye contact when you meet someone new.
  • Take the initiative. Don't wait for others to approach you. Reach out and introduce yourself.
  • Join a club or group that aligns with your interests. This can be a great way to meet like-minded people.
  • Be a good listener. Show interest in others and listen to what they have to say.
  • Be yourself. Don't try to be someone you're not. People are more likely to connect with you if you're genuine and authentic.

Making new friends takes time and effort, but it's worth it.

With a little bit of courage and persistence, you can build meaningful relationships that will enrich your life and improve your mental health. So, never give up on making new friends, and always keep an open mind.


Not Sarah’s friend

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